Spend it with them. Alix, being very wise made some sage like commentary a few weeks ago about her kids and going to pick them up, drop them off at their friends houses, events. I, being the cranky defensive step-dad-to be …wait I need to end this run-on sentence. OK, I was noticing how her kids friends parents NEVER picked up her kids to do things. Never swung by, dropped off or even (seems) to offer it. I spoke up a couple times saying how it’s not fair for us *Alix* to being doing all the driving. She replied that she only has a few years or less to have time with them before there out of the house and on their own. That stopped my bitching and I agreed. Our oldest live in is a Senior in HS this year and if things go according to plan- she will be moving out around this time next year for Florida (Culinary School). 1 down and 2 to go. She’s a bright smart funny full of life step daughter (I don’t like that term– so I’ll just call her my daughter)– so ya my Daughter will be leaving us next year and the time spent dropping her off, picking her up is small potatoes.
My son, whom recently moved in with us started a new school (middle) and so far so good, granted it’s the first week seems to be happy. We are trying to focus him more on school and homework as last year was pretty much a failure (he lived with his mother….). He’s a good kid with a great heart as long as you don’t expect anything in the present department, gifts or sharing food. He’s a bastard when it comes to food. He’s nearly 6ft tall and just grew a 1/2 shoe size in the past 4 weeks to be wearing size 11.5 shoe and will eat you out of the house in a matter of days. I’m going to be keeping an eye on his food intake at school as one can track every purchase they make as they have to basically use a pass code when they buy food. That gets tracked online for me to see and If I need to can email the lunch ladies and cut him off from certain foods and snacks. My son isn’t fat per se – I think he’s right around 180 lbs. But ya gotta watch him…
My daughter-daughter is quickly catching up in the height department but remains boney and self-conscience of her weight. Yes, I will blame the media, music vids, friends and pop culture on her weight. She’s picky what she eats minus; hot dogs and dessert. She won’t have any type of red sauce on her pasta- instead she’ll take it without and add a little bit of butter. She loves Fettucini Alfredo and Mac n Cheese but will not eat Chicken unless it’s in a nugget form or strips. Just this week we let her start wearing a thin line of eyeliner….this is her first time in a public school (and my son) so she’s stoked she can do normal things. Catholic schools have certain rules like no make-up, same clothes (which is fine imo– school uniforms), 40 hours of community service for kids (ours had over 200 hrs this past year working at a Assisted Living Center for the past 2 years) , tithing, parent mandatory volunteering, 30 fund raisers per calendar year, tithing, and more tithing.
I, sometimes get perplexed at the thought of God being broke. =D I think parochial schools are great, if you can afford them. We are very fortunate (not really…) that we live in if not the best top 20 school districts in the USA for public schools– Blue Valley, Olathe & Shawnee Mission School districts– which are well funded and if anyone asks where our tax dollars go all one has to do is look to 160th and Antioch at Blue Valley West High School. Johnson County get’s a lot of Hater press but if you want to have your kids going to an elitist public school- Johnson County is the place to be. (If you are really LOADED they go to the State Line Prep School Barstow where the tuition alone is more than Kansas University (out of state)- with that 99.9% of them go to College and most go to Ivy League). Sometimes (if not a lot) money is a good thing.
So with this new school year we have high hopes and our only wishes if for our kids to get great grades and being happy….along with smatterings of sports, music and being a kid. I try to tell them this time in their lives is among or will be the best times in their lives. You only have 5 things you need to worry about as a teen.
1. Good Grades
4. Stay out of trouble
5. Don’t get pregnant or get someone pregnant and/or STD’s.