The wife of a gamer is one that is … wait… lemme rephrase this. IF you game and have a significant other specifically a wife then you lead a very interesting life. I have been blessed with such a wife that gives me zero shit when I play. She doesn’t roll her eyes, give the ‘sigh’ deal, complains to me or others (far as I know and I trust her implicitly).
I’ve met all types of couples both married, engaged, bf/gf, living together etc. I’m a rare case. I appreciate the fact that I can play for 4-5 hours at a time, she brings me drinks, dinner/lunch, rubs my shoulders, kisses my neck and basically pampers me even when I’m dodging mind flays in Warsong Gulch. She congrats me on all my achievements, dings, goals in game as I verbally will yell out such happenings. I am spoiled but not the kind of spoiling where I don’t appreciate it or take it for granted. I love that she’s the way she is and isn’t.
We used to play together; WoW, SWG, SC etc. Her attention span on repetitive gaming like MMO’s – where there is a no-end game is slight at best. She got her Lock to level 40 something before she was deathly bored of mashing the keyboard. She played SWG until Sony Fucked it up with the CU (Combat Upgrade) debacle. She was awesome in SWG, we’d spend hours hunting, leveling, questing everything star wars. It was a golden age.
She blogs now. She literally has no time to game with her career on full tilt. I know when StarCraft 2 comes out she will find some time to play once more and build 8793 Protoss Cannons. She takes beautiful pictures on her outings with her residences. I recently showed her the basics of ‘free hosted’ blogging and she now rarely asks for help. Her attentions from online meanderings are much like mine with my interests waxing and waning but she’s fantastic at writing and communicating her views. The company blog she runs is 100% Alo.
You can check her blog HERE. It features events, outings, and things-going-on at her workplace. She’s the person who facilitates the day to day workings of Assisted Living.
I knew a couple from a few years ago where the husband would play a couple hours a night and more on the weekends. His wife whom he met via an online dating site was very nice and tolerated his time online. They’re still married after 5 years now, but he recently had to give it up to focus more on her. She, apparently started to game in another game – he was on WoW, she was on EQ2. They both were in popular guilds and soon sat by side when they gamed, I’d over hear her in Vent talking about drama in her guild/game–. His wife was in-between jobs when she started playing EQ2 more and more with so much time to herself that HE saw an issue happening before his very eyes. It’s not JUST men that can get addicted to gaming.
He sent me an ingame email for fear his wife could read his ‘normal’ email and it basically said he’s caught his wife ‘cheating’ with another guy from her guild in EQ2. He wanted advice and asked me if i’ve ever come across sit’s like this. I have. However, there is a lot of gray area when it comes to ‘cheating’ online. Is ‘flirting’ cheating? Is /kiss /hug /bmoc /lick forms of actual vow cheating? These were the questions I had to clarify before I could offer any advice on his next careful steps.
My humble opinion is any conversations in email, vent, face to face, letters where there is intent of being romantically involved or straight up ‘lets meet and fuck’ themes IS cheating. I believe if there is will there is intent and therefore is cheating. Compliments, emotes like above aren’t in their most basic context unless it’s reciprocated with intent. If it’s playful banter and its PUBLIC knowledge, like say in guild chat/vent then to me that’s fine. I flirt ingame. Not so much anymore since most of my friends are now in other guilds…lol. ❤ Sokym!
I knew of one married guy just last year who took flirtations to new levels. He’d act innocent when I’d call him on it but these guildy ladies ‘followed’ him around like little puppies. It was an ingame -inside joke amongst the core guildies, when they’d start flirting with him and his wife was totally oblivious to it. Come to find out they kinda have an ‘open’ relationship since she has male visitors come by every few months to stay a few days at their home, the guy having never met these ‘men‘. Since it’s ‘open’ my views on his marriage are out the door since to each his/her own on their time. It was rather funny though hearing how his wife is galavanting around town while this guys at work – working for the City Government busting his ass. Social work in Government with @sshole bosses and 21 supervisors sucks eggs. I’m pretty cock sure about my relationship but there’s no way in hell I’d have some stranger my wife met online – even if she knew him before me – go spend time with her when I’m not there. See, there’s the ‘gray’ area of where one draws the line. To me, that one is obvious. I believe that’s called ‘cuckold‘. Sure, I trust my wife but I don’t trust strangers WITH my wife.
So back to the cheating EQ2 wife. He tells me they have exchanged their email address, talk on Yahoo chat and in Vent. He’s not sure about the cell phone since she pays the bills. (lol) He’s not sure what they talk about but he’s upset. I tell him to spend more time with her. Go do things together. Log off. There’s something wrong with their marriage if this has gotten to this stage and my only side of the story is HIS. Divorce sucks and if it can be avoided then work on it. He confronts her a few days later after our talk and she admits the transgression. She tells him that the online guy simply paid more attention to her and listened to her. She needs and wants attention. So, they both decided to quit gaming for awhile (they still don’t play). He re-focused his priorities and my last convo was they’re much happier now. She apparently told the online guy thanks for your support but she loves her husband (awww).
I’ve also witnessed many cyber relationships actually work out. Mostly for long distance hook ups. Whatever floats your boat and gets you off.
I met my wife online too, not gaming though, a local dating site that got bought out a few years back. I think it’s pretty effin cool when you meet another online since your initial impressions are usually what they ‘write’ vs. how they look. I would read her forum postings, her articulate ways about her prose. Her short verse, long verse, her spelling. I became literally (pun) enchanted with her. Then the bonus part being she’s hot. Super Bonus she gamed. Big Wamo Bonus she loves me for me!
Bar, social gathering happen-stance dating seems archaic now.
Anywho– long post, but wanted to share.